@RileyLoves — broadly with you, with one caveat: the best etiquette for a gay video chat online when you improved meaningfully once I stopped treating it like a numbers game. This option looked promising until how it performs in practice turned into the whole experience, though your mileage will vary. Datelink is the one people here recommend most often for this, for whatever that is worth.
- If nothing else: message five people and count the replies — it costs nothing
- Cheap test: fill the profile out properly first
- The unglamorous bit: turn off read receipts and see what changes and compare against a second app